An excerpt from my response to a Qewz News post on Facebook is today's featured quote on their main news website:
The whole response this line was taken from may have been overlong and brimming with potentially crackpot hypotheses (one of my specialties), but I think the part they took was alright. A little offensive perhaps ("dumb kids") but still OK.
Here is their original question:
Qewz News: A "little pink pill" to solve women's sexual problems probably won't be hitting drugstore shelves anytime soon. But that doesn't mean discussion of the need for it, or lack thereof, is likely to end. Is this a legitimate public health concern, or is the drug company manufacturing a disorder?
Here is my original, gigantic response in its gorgeously, playfully unwieldy entirety:
What a fun question!
1. Until dumb kids start sneaking their parents meds and doing themselves serious medical harm (see Viagra), I like the idea of medical science trying to produce better aphrodisiacs. I'd also like to see science try to build a better roller coasters, too. Why not?
2. PTSD is a prime example of how an unsavory cultural experience CAN lead to legitimate medical problems. Stress-induced insomnia and constipation are other, perhaps more appropriate examples. Sometimes human bodies lock up and stop working properly when the external social conditions aren't psychologically healthy.
3. I've heard mainstream American culture referred to as "drenched in sexuality," but haven't seen convincing examples of this.
[Look out! From here out it kind of turns into an essay, but I couldn't figure out what to cut so I just posted an overlong response. Sorry everyone!]
It's true that American pop culture gives a lot of attention to the concept of the budding, sexually eager virginal teen who's finally ready to be looked at in his or her underwear, but that's not actually sex.
What sexually healthy adults do once they move past that fumbling, unskilled, virginal stage is too frequently kept a mystery in American pop culture.
Instead, adult sexuality is most frequently depicted in one of the following, rather asexual ways:
* Two lonely coworkers who try to repress their feelings of sexual tension by cracking wise and maybe kissing once, after years of chaste simmering.
* Asexual marriages.
* Marriages in which the couple initiates sex by hugging, making a wisecrack and chastely kissing just before the end credits roll.
* Single adults who don't spend enough time with any one sexual partner to really experiment or figure things out. This might be a lovelorn single adult character who rarely dates or this might be a promiscuous single adult character who specializes in one-night stands, and who doesn't have to learn how to keep things hot once the initial novelty of acquaintance has worn off.
* Sexually wise adults--whose experience often serves as a punchline--in which sexual references are delivered in such an absurd-sounding fashion that the "normal" adult characters in the scene are baffled, and little or no real wisdom is passed down.
This is all OK subject matter, but it doesn't really help to foster an environment in which adults who have long-term, frequent access to the same partner can work on refining their shared sex life.
Instead, American pop culture gives off the general impression that studying the idiosyncratic sexuality of oneself and one's long-term partner is just explicit, "icky" and something to be terribly, horribly afraid and ashamed of. Not something that anybody worthwhile would actually do.
That fear CAN'T be healthy. I'd be shocked if it DIDN'T contribute to sexual dysfunction!